The Not-So-Perfect Parent
There’s never been a more difficult time to be a parent. It seems like every day there’s a new parenting philosophy that reminds us that we’re doing everything wrong.
If you hover over your kid, you’re a helicopter parent. If you are hands-off, you’re a “free-range” parent. Depending on which article you read or news program you see, these philosophies are either wonderful or terrible for your kids. Should you be an attachment mom? Or a tiger mom? What’s the difference?!
Then there are all the alarmist news programs about the latest flu virus circulation – and that’s not even considering the controversies surrounding the vaccine.
If you’re a working mom, you’re told that you’re selfish. If you’re a stay-at-home mom, you’re told that you’re lazy. If you breastfeed for over a year, you’re a hardcore lactivist. If you don’t breastfeed a year, you didn’t try hard enough. It seems that there’s no way for mom to win!
Even good parents are meant to feel as if they’re lacking in nearly every department. Parenting has become a high-stakes competitive sport with moms feeling like they’re ending up on the losing team.
Now a new book, “Sh*tty Mom: The Parenting Guide for the Rest of Us,” wants to reassure us that we’re doing fine. Less-than-perfect is actually pretty darn good.
“We’re trying to release some pressure and some strain and all the guilt that’s related to Mom, and the fact that we all have to be perfect about it,” said co-author and TODAY producer Alicia Ybarbo on NBC’s “Today” show.
The book’s authors stress that ultimately, it doesn’t matter which parenting philosophy you adhere to as long as you figure out what works for you and your family and do your best.
“It’s hard being a mom,” Zoellner says. “You gotta do what you gotta do when you gotta do it.”
Do you agree?